As today is New Year's Day, I came up with some resolutions, just like I did last year. I also reflected on to what extent I fulfilled last year's resolutions and, if I did, to what extent they made me happier. But first things first: this year's resolutions.
Resolution 1: I will recognize that happiness is a choice, and I will choose happiness. I will not allow small setbacks to throw me too far off course.
Resolution 2: If the shoe doesn't fit, I will take it off. If this is for some reason not possible right away, I will make a concrete plan to make it happen as soon as possible.
Resolution 3: I will allow only open, loving people into my life. I will be asshole-free.
And with that, here is my assessment of my resolutions from last year:
Resolution 1: investing time and energy in my friendships. When I succeeded in doing it, which wasn't as often as I would have liked, it definitely made me happier. Good one.
Resolution 2: communicate clearly, i.e. ask for what I want, tell someone when I'm upset. I found this very hard to do because it seems people are not used to hearing anything really honest and are generally very taken aback. However, again, when I did it it was worthwhile because it revealed which relationships were worth keeping.
Resolution 3: trust my gut. Yes. Forcing myself to do this is the single most important change I have made in my life thus far. I don't mean to be ridiculously arrogant, but you should all do it too.