I know I'm rather late with this one, since Neil Strauss' now infamous book The Game came out about a thousand years ago. Guess I better get on the Tiger Mom's book before it becomes dreadfully last year. In any case, I have finally read at least part of The Game and feel I can debunk this whole "pick-up artist" business pretty easily, so that's what I'm going to do, passé or not.
For those who don't know, The Game describes the author's experience joining a community of men who read literature and attend seminars on how to pick up women. Some of the techniques associated with this community include "negging," which is putting a girl down in front of her friends so that she feels she needs to win your approval, and being "cocky and funny," which is pretty much like it sounds. As I have just been advised, the author concludes that these techniques are not the key to happiness, but the part I read indicated that there is a fair amount of success associated with using them.
Obviously, I am in no position to test any of these practices myself. However, it seems to me that this is sort of like the male version of a 90s-era women's relationship advice book called The Rules. That book sets out tenets which, if followed, will allegedly get you the relationship of your dreams. The tenets include "don't ever approach a man first," "don't call him first and don't always return his calls," "don't accept a Saturday night date after Wednesday," and the like.
I understand why this type of advice sells. It's because it provides a seemingly easy-to-follow set of guidelines for people who have no real insight as to why their relationships don't succeed. However, here is the problem with The Rules: while there are certainly men who will aggressively pursue a woman even when they are getting nothing more than a totally passive response from her, these men are known in common parlance as "weirdos." So if you really go for weirdos, you might do well with The Rules.
Likewise, if you really go for "frat boy groupies," you might have a lot of success being a pick-up artist. Although I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a bit jealous of how the frat boy groupie's lithe body typically belies her beer-drinking aptitude, I can at least commend myself on knowing there is never any good reason to wear a thong under sweatpants. However, if this is your taste in girls, far be it from me to question you.
If, on the other hand, you want to attract a girl who is not a frat boy groupie, you are in luck because I'm going to tell you how to do it. But be prepared, because what you have to do will probably be far, far more difficult for you than negging or being cocky and funny.
To attract a girl who is not a frat boy groupie, you have to listen to Carole King. And you have to like it.